Do you realize how many lies you tell yourself? In this Double Date we will talk about uncovering the lies you have told yourself for years and how to replace them with what God thinks of you. What you think about yourself does affect your marriage. Let’s start thinking more accurately about ourselves so that our marriages can be stronger!


Transcript: change-the-way-you-think-about-yourself.pdf

Talk About It:

What negative messages go on inside your head that I rarely know about? Is there any way I can help you with that?

  • Avoiders tend to think, “I have to be strong. Showing emotions make me look weak.”
  • Pleasers tend to think, “What I need doesn’t matter. I need to work to make you happy.”
  • Vacillators tend to think, “I want what makes me happy. My happiness matters most.”
  • Victims tend to think think, “Nothing I think or want matters.”
  • Controllers tend to think, “I am in charge. Otherwise people will just run over me.”

What script have you heard over and over that has fueled your own misperception of yourself?

Think About It:

Does what I think of myself line up with what God says about me?

What lies have been whispered in my head since childhood?

Do I believe what God says about me?

Notes and Quotes:

“Whatever is inside of me leaks out all over other people.” Jill Savage

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” Psalm 139:13

Truth statements:

  • I am created on purpose for a purpose.
  • I am loved.
  • I have a Father who loves me more than I will ever understand.
  • I am God’s child.
  • I am ruled by love not fear.
  • I am forgiven.
  • I am not alone and I have instant access to wisdom and discernment through the Holy Spirit and God’s word.
  • I am redeemed.
  • I belong.

Recommended book (this has been a game-changer for Mark): Released from Shame by Sandra Wilson