If you’ve been married for any amount of time, you’ve likely already noticed that sometimes you just don’t see things eye-to-eye. It can be hard to view things from your spouse’s perspective, especially when your convinced that your perspective is the right one! If you’ve ever wrestled with this in your marriage, this Dive Deep Interview is for you! Join in on our conversation with Jeff and Beth McCord, authors of Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage, as they share how the Enneagram can help couples navigate their differences with mutual understanding and compassion!


TRANSCRIPT: Jeff-and-Beth-McCord.pdf

Talk About It:

Would you be willing to take the Enneagram test?

When could we set aside time to share our results and learn about it?

If you have taken the test:

What surprised you about your results?

What insight has this given you about yourself and about me?


Think About It:

Take some time to look through your Enneagram results on your own. Look through your core motivations, fears and longings, as well as your strengths and weaknesses. Highlight or underline any new realizations that may come up during this process, and jot down ideas of how you can use these new discoveries about yourself to bless your spouse and marriage.

As you look through your results, ask yourself some hard questions:

  • Am I stuck in the rut of trying to change my spouse instead of accepting them for the way God has uniquely designed them?
  • Do I put pressure on my spouse to meet needs that only Christ can truly fill?
  • How can I communicate better in times of conflict? What can I do to avoid common pitfalls in my thinking, and view myself as God’s beloved child first and foremost?

Notes and Quotes:

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