Do you ever catch yourself grumbling about something your spouse has said or done that bothers you? Have you found yourself holding in pent up frustration to the point where it feels as if it’s eating away at you? If you answered yes to either or both of these questions, this month’s Dive Deep with John and Tricia Goyer is for you. John and Tricia are the parents of 10 children, 7 by adoption! Tricia is also the author of several books including her most recent one, The Grumble-Free Year. We found this conversation to be so rich, and we trust that you’ll love it too!


Transcript: John-and-Tricia-Goyer-Interview.pdf

Talk About It:

Is our home full of grumbling and complaining?

Challenge yourselves to having a grumble-free year. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  1. Write out verses on the topic of gratitude and thanksgiving and post them around your house! If you have kids, invite them to join in this challenge with you. You can even memorize these verses together so that you can remember them when you’re tempted to grumble.
  2. Present an incentive for kids (John and Tricia offered the kids an affordable family cruise!)
  3. Practice praising one another instead of tearing each other down.

Think About It:

Trisha talked about how she used to hold all of her struggles and stress inside instead of communicating with John. She described this tendency as having a “martyr-complex”. Do I have a “martyr-complex”?

Is there something weighing me down on the inside that I need to talk with my spouse about?

Am I a safe person for my spouse to open up with about their concerns?

How can I show my spouse appreciation on a regular basis?

Notes and Quotes:

John and Tricia’s Tips for a Grumble-Free Year

Exchange grumbling for gratitude.

Exchange picking at someone for praising them.

Exchange expectation for appreciation.