A New Year means a fresh start to the calendar and our season of life. Would you like to start this new year with more intentionality? That’s what we are talking about in this Double Date lesson.
One thing that you can consider for the new year is how you want to use your Date Night membership as part of your rhythms of connection, and we give you some ideas about that in this lesson, too! We encourage you not to leave the next year to chance. You get to design the marriage and the connection you want.
Talk About It
1. Looking back at 2024, from a marriage perspective-how did we do? What were our strengths?
2. What were some things we could have done better?
3. How was our pace of life? Are there adjustments we want to make for 2025?
4. What are some things that we can go ahead and put on the calendar so that we have regular connection?
Think About It
1. Were there times when I wanted more connection or more time together, but I expressed that from a place of criticism?
2. How can I help make and prioritize advanced decisions when it comes to our rhythms of connection?
Notes and Quotes
Advanced Decision Making has been a game changer. Deciding things ahead of time and putting plans on the calendar makes it easier for us to commit to plans and manage our time wisely.
As we ask questions, we need to try to do so with a curious mindset, instead of a defensive or aggressive mindset. Think of it as solving problems together, not criticizing. Use “we” language.
In these conversations, take out the word “you.” That one word can divert the whole conversation into a place of defensiveness.
Consider the 2 – 2 – 2 Rhythm of Connection:
• A date night every two weeks
• A weekend away every two months
• A week away every two years
One of the values of having something planned together is this: even just the anticipation of the event builds connection!
