When two lives blend into one, we have to learn the skill of compromise. In this Double Date with Mark and Jill you will learn the practical tools needed to make decisions together!
Talk About It
Are there any dynamics that I bring to the table that makes decision-making conversations difficult for you?
How can I practically listen to you better?
How do I make you feel when we’re making a decision?
Think About It
Am I selfish in any way when we are making decisions together? Do I want my own way so much that I can’t consider my spouse’s thoughts and perspective?
Do I respond with defensiveness in any way?
Can I really listen well?
Notes and Quotes
- Start with multiple discussions of no decision.
- Partner A makes an initial proposal.
- Partner B either agrees with the proposal and a decision is made. If not, Partner B takes some time to think and pray through a counterproposal.
- Partner B makes a counterproposal.
- Partner A either agrees with the counterproposal and a decision is made. If not, Partner A takes some time to think and pray thought a counterproposal.
- The counterproposal back and forth continues until we can find common ground.
Discussions of no decision = brainstorming with no decisions being made. No lobbying. Just sharing what you’re each thinking.
