I Corinthians 13 tells us that love is patient and kind. What does that look like lived out? Join us as we consider if our love is rude?Is-Your-Love-Rude.pdf
Talk about it:
What is one takeaway or personal challenge you have from this teaching?
Have you ever been around a rude person? How did that make you feel?
Is there a time you feel I’m rude to you? (When your spouse answers this, just listen and then respond with, “Thank you for sharing that. I’ll try to be more aware in the future.”
Think about it:
What are your negative thoughts regarding your spouse? How do these thoughts influence your actions?
Below is a list of words that make up rudeness. talk to your spouse about how you have used these actions inside your marriage?
Are you aware of any time you have been rude within your marriage? If so, have you already done so, or, are you ready to ask forgiveness for this?
Notes and Quotes
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 ESV love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful
Sometimes rudeness comes out in ways we may not realize:
— Envy refers to comparison and coveting or desire for that which we don’t have or possess. In marriage, we can compare to marriages we see, or spouses we see, or what we assume in our mind.
— Boast refers to talking about self with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities. In marriage, boasting fuels pride.
— Arrrogant refers to an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities.
— Rude refers to one speaking and acting impolite, abrupt, or using hurtful words, actions, and attitudes towards others.
— Pride refers to insisting on its own way.
— Irritable refers to being short, frustrated, angry.
— Resentful refers to feeling or expressing bitterness or indignation and holding one hostage to our resentment.
We compare our own marriage or spouse, to what we see or imagine, and begin to tell ourselves the story that our marriage or spouse doesn’t measure up to what we see or imagine, and we then hold our marriage or spouse hostage to this story. When we do this we are not loving.