In our No More Perfect Marriages book we talk about the eight God-Tools that we need to be using in marriage. This month’s Double Date with Mark and Jill focuses on the God-Tool of COURAGE.  Most importantly, though, it focuses on very practical ways we can use our God-Tool of courage each and every day.



TRANSCRIPT: Coming soon!


Talk About It

Where do each of us need to pick up our God-Tool of courage?

Is there any place either one of us carry fear into our marriage from the experiences we had in our family of origin?

Fear is the opposite of courage. Where does fear exist for each of us that we need to pull out our God-Tool of courage?

What can I do to reduce fear for you?


Think About It

What are my usual default responses to my spouse?

Do I filter my responses to my spouse through fear, shame, or failure?

Where do I need to be strong and courageous in my marriage?

Is there any way I’m still operating in my marriage like I did in childhood?

Where do I need to remember that God is with me?

Where do I need to love even when it’s hard?

Where do I need to pray, “Lord, I want your will and your ways,”?


Quotes and Notes

Deuteronomy 31: Be strong and courageous. Do not fear and be in dread.

Matthew 14—the disciples operated out of fear.

Philippians 1:20

We don’t really ever “arrive” in relationships, because there’s always more to learn.

Fear sets in when we make the storm our god.

Courage is the doorway to hope and confidence.


Practical Ways We Need to Use Our God-Tool of Courage

We need…

…the courage to operate differently in our marriage than I did in my childhood.

…the courage to be honest.

…the courage to persevere without running away.

…the courage to stay engaged when it seems it would be easier to isolate or disengage.

…the courage to trust God more than you trust yourself.

…the courage to find peace in doing the right thing and being the right person, regardless of how our spouse responds.

…the courage to venture into the unknown.

…the courage to face our fears, grab hold of faith, and press on in being the right person.

…the courage to clean up our messes, apologize, and ask for forgiveness.