Our words have the power to build up or to destroy our spouse. How are you using your words? In this Double Date with Mark and Jill, we are going to see what God has to say about the power of our words, and how we can use them to breathe life into our marriage!


TRANSCRIPT:  The-Power-of-Our-Words.pdf


Talk About It:

  • Do you generally feel built up or torn down when we communicate?
  • Jill and Mark spoke about four principles for using our words well. Which one do we need to start working on today?
  • How can we start having safe conversations?
  • Is technology keeping us from listening to each other well?

Think About It:

  • Am I using my words to build up my spouse?
  • How can I take my thoughts captive to honor and respect God and my spouse?
  • Am I affirming my spouse in the things they have done? How can I show them more appreciation?

Quotes and Notes:

“What goes on inside of our head will either come out in words or it will come out in attitudes.” Jill Savage

4 Principles for Using Your Words Well

  • Stop commenting. Start using self-control.
  • Stop correcting. Start affirming.
  • Stop yelling and start talking.
  • Stop talking and start listening.

Mark and Jill spoke about the importance of having safe conversations. To watch the video explaining how to do that, click here.


Proverbs 12:18-19- “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.”

Proverbs 13:3- “Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 15:1- “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Proverbs 16:24- “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

Proverbs 18:21- “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”

Matthew 12:36-37- “I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”

Proverbs 21:23- “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”

Ephesians 4:29- “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

James 1:26- “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, that person’s religion is worthless.”

Psalm 19:14- “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.”