Love is the foundation of marriage, but it’s normal that our “in love” feelings will come and go. What does it look like to “love well?” How can we practically love each and every day? This Double Date with Mark and Jill answers that question and more!

The LOVE AUDIT mentioned in this video can be found here: I-Cor-13-for-Marriage.pdf


TRANSCRIPT: When-and-How-To-Use-Your-God-Tool-of-Love.docx


  • How can I better show unconditional love to you?
  • Which element of love do I do well?


  • Look through the questions in the “Love Audit.” Which one do I need to focus on?
  • Do I need to learn to receive God’s unconditional love so I can learn to love better?
  • Does my wheel of love have any flat spots?


Love Wheel: The hub of the wheel is decision.

Different elements of love are like spokes in the wheel–in no particular order:

  • Physical touch-sexual and nonsexual
  • Serving, together and serving one another
  • Thinking the best of one another
  • Spiritual
  • Verbal expressions of love
  • Growing toward God’s unconditional love
  • Action

Love Wheel Graphic:  love-wheel-feelings.png


“Love is patient and kind. Love does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant. It is not rude. It does not insist on its own way. It’s not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” I Corinthians 13

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

We love because he first loved us. Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.” I John 4:7-21