In this Double Date with Mark and Jill we are tackling our thinking about assumptions. It’s less than 20 minutes but power packed with perspective and wisdom.
Talk About It
Is there any place where you feel I am holding you hostage to past behavior?
What is one assumption we can break to begin to rebuild our trust?
Think About It
Do I have any negative emotions that come from my past experiences, personal fears, or my home of origin that fuel my assumptions?
What am I assuming about my spouse and is that thinking accurate?
Notes and Quotes:
Number one way to stop Assumicide is to ask your thoughts.
Assumptions happen when someone believes a thought even when it is not factual or true, then they react and respond emotionally based upon thought.
2 Cor 10:5b “…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”
Ask instead of accuse.
Common Assumptions we make:
- Assuming we know what our spouse is thinking.
- Assuming we know what our spouse is feeling. (We often impose our feelings
- Assuming our spouse is out to get us. They are the enemy.
- Assuming our spouse will eventually leave.
- Assuming our spouse will betray us.
- Assuming our way of doing things is right and our spouse’s is wrong.
- Are you making inferences about your differences?
- Inferring means to guess, speculate, hint, or imply.
Book mentioned: Becoming Us by Jeff and Beth McCord