In this Double Date with Mark and Jill we are tackling our thinking about assumptions. It’s less than 20 minutes but power packed with perspective and wisdom.
Audio:
Transcript: Are-you-committing-assumicide.pdf
Talk About It
Is there any place where you feel I am holding you hostage to past behavior?
What is one assumption we can break to begin to rebuild our trust?
Think About It
Do I have any negative emotions that come from my past experiences, personal fears, or my home of origin that fuel my assumptions?
What am I assuming about my spouse and is that thinking accurate?
Notes and Quotes:
Number one way to stop Assumicide is to ask your thoughts.
Assumptions happen when someone believes a thought even when it is not factual or true, then they react and respond emotionally based upon thought.
2 Cor 10:5b “…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”
Ask instead of accuse.
Common Assumptions we make:
- Assuming we know what our spouse is thinking.
- Assuming we know what our spouse is feeling. (We often impose our feelings
- Assuming our spouse is out to get us. They are the enemy.
- Assuming our spouse will eventually leave.
- Assuming our spouse will betray us.
- Assuming our way of doing things is right and our spouse’s is wrong.
- Are you making inferences about your differences?
- Inferring means to guess, speculate, hint, or imply.
Book mentioned: Becoming Us by Jeff and Beth McCord