Do you know your love languages?  Do you know your spouse’s love languages?  In this month’s Dive Deep Interview, we learn the history behind love languages and key strategies for speaking them in marriage!

If you’ve never taken the quiz to find out your love language, you can do it here.

There are two of Dr. Chapman’s books we recommend as an accompaniment to this interview.












Talk About It

What is your top two love languages?

What do I do that speaks your love language?

What do you long for from me as it relates to speaking your love language?

How can we help each other remember our love languages?

Is there anything I do that is the opposite of your love language and causes you pain?

Think About it

Have I ever let my spouse know what my love language is and given him or her ideas for speaking it?

How am I doing speaking my spouse’s love language(s)?

What can I do to keep our love languages in front of our eyes?

Is there anything I do that is the opposite of my spouse’s love language and may be causing him/her deep pain?

Quotes and Notes

3 Ways to Identify Love Languages

  • Observe behavior–what do you or your spouse naturally do?
  • What do you or your spouse complain about? (The opposite is probably their love language)
  • What do you or your spouse request most often?

The opposite of your spouse’s love language will hurt them very deeply.

There are two essentials to a long-term healthy marriage. One is, you have to learn how to speak each other’s love language, and thus stay connected emotionally. But the other is, we have to deal effectively with our failures, because none of us are perfect. And that means, we have to learn how to apologize, and we have to choose to forgive.

Any one of these love languages can be learned as an adult even if you did not receive them as a child.