In this Double Date with Mark and Jill they are connecting with authors Ruth and Patrick Schwenk about making your spouse your priority, not your children. Each season will look a little different in marriage, but having a plan for marriage connection is so important!


Transcript: Ruth-and-Patrick-Schwenk-Audio.pdf


Talk About It:

What can we do together to intentionally keep our marriage at the top of the priority list?

How can I best make you feel like you are my top priority?

What is your favorite date, and when can we schedule it? (Now you have two date ideas–one from each of you! Put a date on the calendar and make them both happen!)

Think About It:

Have I been putting the kids needs above my spouse and my marriage?

Do I need to make my spouse more of a priority rather than an afterthought in my schedule?

Did my parents model a healthy or unhealthy marriage when I was growing up? What can I do to emulate or change that for my children?

Notes and Quotes:

Book referenced For Better or For Kids by Patrick and Ruth Schwenk

In a Boat in the Middle of a Lake by Patrick and Ruth Schwenk

“You can’t tidy anything without untidying yourself. Part of producing a masterpiece is getting paint all over the place.” GK Chesterton

“Marriage takes intentionality and time.” Jill Savage

“One of the greatest gift we can give our kids is a healthy marriage.” Patrick Schwenk

“The walk down the aisle is short, but the walk through marriage is a lot longer.” Patrick Schwenk

“So many of us fight with each other, not for each other.” Mark Savage

John 3:30 He must become greater and I must become less.