In this Double Date with Mark and Jill we are tackling our thinking about assumptions. It’s less than 20 minutes but power packed with perspective and wisdom.


Transcript: Are-you-committing-assumicide.pdf

Talk About It

Is there any place where you feel I am holding you hostage to past behavior?

What is one assumption we can break to begin to rebuild our trust?

Think About It

Do I have any negative emotions that come from my past experiences, personal fears, or my home of origin that fuel my assumptions?

What am I assuming about my spouse and is that thinking accurate?

Notes and Quotes:

Number one way to stop Assumicide is to ask your thoughts.

Assumptions happen when someone believes a thought even when it is not factual or true, then they react and respond emotionally based upon thought.

2 Cor 10:5b “…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”

Ask instead of accuse.

Common Assumptions we make:

  • Assuming we know what our spouse is thinking.
  • Assuming we know what our spouse is feeling. (We often impose our feelings
  • Assuming our spouse is out to get us. They are the enemy.
  • Assuming our spouse will eventually leave.
  • Assuming our spouse will betray us.
  • Assuming our way of doing things is right and our spouse’s is wrong.
    • Are you making inferences about your differences?
    • Inferring means to guess, speculate, hint, or imply.

Book mentioned: Becoming Us by Jeff and Beth McCord