Temptation happens. What we do with temptation is most important. This month’s Double Date with Mark and Jill tackles temptation and how to handle it in a way that protects your integrity and your marriage!
Talk About It
- Do you remember feeling the tingles when you were first dating?
- Does the idea that experiencing the tingles for someone outside of marriage being a normal thing surprise you?
- Is there something missing in our relationship that you’d like to see happen?
4 Steps to Take When You Experience Temptation
RUN—2 Timothy 2:22 “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
TAKE YOUR THOUGHTS CAPTIVE—2 Corinthians 10:5b “…take every thought captive to obey Christ…”
Move your thoughts from the other person and back to your spouse.
Don’t mis-assign a meaning to your feelings.
TURN THE LIGHT ON—
The power of the temptation reduces. When temptation stays in the dark, it has a strong pull on us.
Be honest with your spouse.
Be safe for your spouse to be honest with. Don’t explode. Respond with love and grace.
ADDRESS WHAT’S WRONG IN MY MARRIAGE
Can you identify what you’re missing in your marriage that you’re seeing in someone else?
Don’t hint and hope. Communicate clearly what you are feeling and what you desire for your marriage.
Quotes and Scriptures To Talk About or Think About
“Being tempted is not the problem. We all are tempted. It’s what we do with temptation that we need to most be concerned about.”
James 1:13-15: “ Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. 14 But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.15 Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” (English Standard Version)
The Message Version of James 1:13-15: “Don’t let anyone under pressure to give in to evil say, “God is trying to trip me up.” God is impervious to evil, and puts evil in no one’s way. The temptation to give in to evil comes from us and only us. We have no one to blame but the leering, seducing flare-up of our own lust. Lust gets pregnant, and has a baby: sin! Sin grows up to adulthood, and becomes a real killer.”
“The grass is always greener wherever you water it.”
Think About It
- Of the four steps for tackling temptation, is there one that I need to be intentional about?
- Are my thoughts more negative than positive about my spouse? Do I see only frustrations in my marriage? Where do I need to take my thoughts captive as it relates to my marriage?
- Am I safe for my spouse to be honest with? Do I react with lecturing or anger or jealousy or do I respond with love and grace?
- Am I watering the grass in my marriage?