TALK ABOUT IT:
What are some differences that we have that we can use the God-tool of grace on?
Where do you feel I’m critical of you? (Remember: Listen to understand, not to defend.)
THINK ABOUT IT:
In what area do I need to check my critical attitude?
Where can I look for what my spouse IS doing instead of what he/she is NOT doing?
List 5 things you appreciate about your spouse.
NOTES AND QUOTES
A relationship without grace:
- Has a critical spirit – seeing what the other person isn’t doing instead of what they are doing
- Creates a toxic emotional environment – we are not safe to be around
- Is shaming to the other person
The difference between forgiveness and grace: forgiveness is when our spouse has hurt us and we need to untangle our heart. Grace is for irritations, when we need to just give freedom and space to be human.
A relationship with grace:
- Accepts personalities and differences, instead of criticizing
- Is an emotionally safe environment, instead of a toxic one
- is affirming instead of shaming
- Honors uniqueness instead of insisting on conformity
” For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10 New International Version (NIV)
“Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.” 2 Peter 1:2 New International Version (NIV)
“At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.” Titus 3:3-7 New International Version (NIV)