Is your marriage characterized by harshness, indifference or insensitivity? Are you hoping for a change, but don’t know where to start? In this week’s Double Date, we have some helpful, practical tips for producing change by using your God-tool of Compassion!


TRANSCRIPT:  Your-God-Tool-of-Compassion.pdf

Talk About It:

  • Mark and Jill mentioned that when compassion is absent, a relationship is characterized by harshness, indifference, insensitivity, demands, and a buck up mentality. Are any of these present in our marriage?
  • How can we practically exercise compassion in our relationship?
  • Are we allowing busyness to get in the way of showing care and empathy for one another? What can we remove or cut back on in our schedules?

Think About It:

  • Am I the compassionate and empathetic partner that my spouse needs? Am I attempting to understand their emotions?
  • Which compassion killers do I need to eliminate from my life?
  • Mark and Jill read from Colossians 3:12-13 (see below). Which areas have I been succeeding in? Which areas can I improve on?

Quotes and Notes:

“Buck up fixes, but compassion feels.”

“Compassion builds a bridge into the heart and soul of another person.”

Compassion Killers

  • Busyness
  • Not building enough margin into your life
  • Minimizing your spouse’s feelings
  • Minimizing your own feelings
  • Defensiveness

Two Ways to Use Your God-Tool of Compassion

  • Empathize and validate: Show that you care for the emotions of your spouse, and validate their concerns.
  • Step into their shoes: Attempt to understand how your spouse is feeling by viewing things from their perspective.

Colossians 3:12-13- “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving each other.”