Are you bringing life or death to your marriage with your words? That’s what we discuss in this short 12 minute, but powerpacked, Double Date with Mark and Jill! The best part, however, if that we give you life-giving ways to respond moving forward.

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TRANSCRIPT:

“I’m-Not-Overreacting”-.pdf

Talk About It

Is there any way you feel you can’t win with me?

What information might be helpful for me to push to you? (thoughts, emotions, financial information, struggles, etc)

Do you feel safe to communicate with me?

Think About It

Is there any way I can be more intentional about pushing information my spouse’s way?  (Internal processors need to really pay attention to this question!)

Do I need to slow down and pause so I’m more careful with my words?

Do I need to dial down my defensiveness?

Are you bringing life or death to your marriage with your words?

Notes and Quotes

Push information to your spouse instead of making your spouse pull it from you.

The tone of the words that we say to each other makes

Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death.”

Colssians 4:6, “Let your speech always be gracious.”

Proverbs 29:21, “Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than him.”

We need to be respectfully honest with each other.

“Can I share something with you?” is a good way to start feedback.

Reflect back what the other person said. This makes the other person feel heard.

“I can receive that,” is a great way to respond to feedback.